“The great thing, if one can, is to stop regarding all the unpleasant things as interruptions of one’s “own” or “real” life. The truth is, of course, that what one calls the interruptions are precisely one’s real life – the one God is sending one day by day. What one calls ones “real” life is a phantom of one’s own imagination.” C.S. Lewis
When I first saw this quote, I literally cried. It was the exact truth I needed to hear.
I am a selfish person by nature. I do not like to be interrupted. I do not like to have plans change. I do not adapt well to someone puking right before we have to go somewhere.
These “interruptions” as Lewis calls them are in fact reality. The chaos that just happens. It’s real life.
And how we choose to handle life’s interruptions determines whether or not we find calm in the chaos.
Some mama’s seem to have it all together, and yet I wonder, do they really – or are they just really, really good at faking it til they make it?
Or have they found that mysterious pair of big girl panties that my mama is always telling me to put on?
Interruptions don’t have to throw a wrench in the works. We have to develop strategies to duck and cover when they are thrown at us.
- Acknowledge it’s not going according to Thee Plan. (The child has lost a shoe. Again. We are going to be late. Again.)
- Refocus on the goal. (Trying to get to school on time.)
- Say it out loud. (This is not a major catastrophe. Shoes get lost all of the time. When I get back home I am going to gather all of the shoes in the house and match them up and create a space for them.)
- Find a (temporary) solution. (Snow boots or flip flops, you choose. You didn’t put your shoes away, so these are the choices. – or- retrace your steps.)
- Refocus on the goal. (It’s time to go. We are late, but we can’t change that.)
How do you handle “real” life?
Praying for patience,
Thee Farm Wife